Anonymous asked: Hello! Okay. My "boy thingy" and I have had sex over ten times. I'm a big girl, but he's not bigger. Sometimes I'll say some girl is really pretty and he'll be like "she's too skinny." He says he's fine with me or whatever, but the thing is, he never calls me pretty or beautiful or things.. Is that bad? Maybe he just doesn't want to.. (I mean, honestly, I know I'm not pretty, nor am I close to it, but idk, I just kinda want him to tell me I am; is that rude to be like?.)
I don’t think it’s bad but if you two are at the point where you’re just friends with benefits or even just casual sex, it’s not really fair to him. Because in my opinion, I think that’s like asking him to be somewhat of boyfriend material. You get what I’m trying to say? Like at this friends with benefits stage, you two probably thought each other were attractive and kept it more on the physical side than mental. So now for you to want him to do more mental things than physical, you’re bargaining a little more than what he offered. I’m not saying it’s a bad thing and who knows maybe you two will go further into your friendship. It’s not rude for you to want that, I just don’t think that if the two of you are willing to go further into the friendship, just staying friends with benefits, you’re not going to get what you want.